Sanity Savers for Parents
By Patty Shaw
There are quite a few tricks available that will ensure mommy (and daddy) time is held sacred by the family, that are quite good for the family and you won’t feel guilty about doing them.
We’ll talk about using my three favorites, Bach Flower Remedies in spray bottles, creating a Sacred Space at home and Homeopathy in your first aid kit.
Bach Flower essences are fantastic ways to support behavior shifts in your children that are noninvasive, loving and nonjudgmental. Make up a spray bottle for each of the remedies your family seems to need and keep them handy. Place 5 drops of Bach flower essence into a spray bottle of distilled water and spray the room liberally when needed.
Chicory is for children who are bickering or fighting over toys or for your little one who is constantly demanding attention and clingy.
Spray a little Hornbeam around for the child who can’t seem to get motivated in the morning because the idea of going to school just exhausts them.
Holly is for sibling rivalry and jealousy.
Impatiens is for your overactive child who can’t seem to sit still. This remedy will help to slow junior down and get into bed and fall asleep. I also use reiki to ground and calm children to get them to fall asleep.
Children who are bossy or a bully will chill and be more respectful and less harsh of others with a few drops of Vine Remedy in their juice box.
Elm is for mom. A few drops of elm in you water will help you come back down to earth when the responsibility of being a working mom overwhelms you. You can get back into the day to day and let go of the focusing on the big picture to much.
Wild Oat is for your teenager who is picking a direction in life and can’t seem to decide or is at a cross road. Give wild oat to your teenager when the prospect of making a life choice is to daunting.
Separation anxiety? Aspen (the quaking tree) helps your child settle down after a bad dream, and creates inner peace, security and fearlessness. Aspen helps them access their own courage and confidence.
Setting up sacred spaces at home promotes a scream free zone and uninterrupted mommy or daddy time. We all need peace and quiet, but when the kids or partners are feeling that loss because you need some time to yourself, this daily practice will really help every member of the family feel love and supported while you are not available.
The cone of divine silence: In the morning before the day starts, visualize your home in a beam of light shining down on your home from above and up from below. Invite the guardian angel of each member of the family to ground and center each of their people and walk with them. Invite Archangel Michael to protect the home and every member of the family from negative energy and release all attachments on you and your children that have accumulated throughout the day as you all walk through the door at the end of your day. Ask the angels help your sacred space become a sanctuary for your family by clearing your home of any residual unhappy feelings left over from previous days and filling it with unconditional love. Renew this sacred space every morning before you get out of bed. You can support this loving energy by placing rose quarts around your home.
A list of Must have Homeopathic remedies for your first aid kit. Homeopathy is very easy to administer to your children because it has a gentle almost sweet taste. No screwed up faces and fighting this remedy. Remember to keep this and all medicine out of the reach of children. You can find homeopathic remedies at the health food store. You can get yourself a book or follow the suggestions on the label. Boiron is a popular brand and has made putting homeopathy in your first aid kit extremely easy. Here is a short list of what I keep available at my home.
Arnica Montana for bruises and goose eggs from a bad bump
Podophyllum 30 c for diarrhea or Veratrum Album
Ruta Gaviolis is for a pulled tendons, twisted ankles - sport injuries It’s a soft tissue remedy
Chamomile for the ear ache that keeps the baby up all night when one cheek is hot and the other cold
Belladonna 30c for the ear aches with fever and a screaming baby
Aconite is for anxiety induced asthma
PMS? – Nat Mur 30 c calms sugar and salt cravings and irritability
Sepia for depression from overwork, most moms’ need sepia by the way.
Ipecac 30c for vomiting that won’t stop – dry heaves
There is a lot more information in my book, the Healers Almanac, Journey into Health with Wisdom from the 21st Century Goddesses that will help you create and maintain a happy and balanced home life. I invite you to check it out and purchase one for your home library. Available through www.coventrycreations.com and www.amazon.com.
It was my pleasure to share my experiences as a mom with Deb Hanneman on her show Zen Mommies. Please check out the interview at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/zen-mommies/2012/01/23/a-new-age-mommy-is-a-happy-mommy.